Q: How can we know the difference between a counterfeit and the man that is just not ready because God is still working on him? Will God allow us to meet him before he’s ready or only when he’s ready for us?
Keila
A: Imagine you’re sitting at your favorite restaurant, and you’ve just ordered a signature award winning 4 layer chocolate cake. It’s been 20 minutes, and the anticipation is building. You can taste the flavors in your mouth with every minute passing. Finally, the waiter arrives with a covered platter and takes the lid off to reveal your desert.
You see a half-baked lump of brown goo on the plate. The outside has chocolate frosting, but on the inside is a cold, runny cake batter complete with egg yolks, onions and broccoli stems. So, not only was it baked u
sing strange ingredients, it was also taken out of the oven too soon.
Would you want to eat that cake? Do you think it’s worth waiting for?
Our God is perfect and complete. I doubt He would give you anybody who wasn’t ready to be in the relationship that you prayed for.
Though you may meet your husband before he’s ready, I doubt God would endorse a relationship between the two of you before His timing. Because it’s hard to get ready for the real thing, if you’re already in a relationship.
There’s no incentive to change and grow.
Your God-given mate is mature, responsible and ready for commitment without you having to primp him. He won’t be perfect, but he’ll be willing to change when God prompts his heart.
Because that’s what it takes to maintain true love, God’s way.
Unfortunately, we create our own heartbreak when we try to help God out or rush His timing.
We meet this guy who we want so desperately to fit our image of the ideal mate that we’ve already fantasized in our minds. And when he doesn’t, we make up excuses such as: “he likes me but he’s just afraid of commitment,” “God is still working on him,” or even worse: “I can change him.”
While it’s true that none of us are perfect and God will continue to work on us all until Jesus comes back, it’s also true that there’s someone out there who’s perfect for you and ready to be in a relationship with you.
He wants to be in a full-out committed relationship with no one else but you. He wants to give his entire heart to you. He wants to provide for you, protect you, and profess to the whole world that you and he are a couple. He will love your God, your children (if applicable) and your belly fat.
When he finally shows up, you won’t have to ask, “Is he the one?” You’ll know without a doubt that he’s the one for you because you’ll have the peace of God. And he’ll treat you the way you deserve to be treated.
But you have to trust God and believe that you’re worth all of that in order to develop the patience to wait for it. Because, in life, you don’t get what you want; you get what you think you deserve.
Loneliness, low self-worth, and desperation will convince you to accept anything from anybody.
But, with faith, self-love, and patience you can have anything your heart desires!
I suggest that you get busy making a list of deal breakers – not preferences– that you want in a man. When you’re done making the list and checking it twice, pray about it to make sure God approves.
Quick question: would you eat the cake while making up excuses for the chef or would you insist on getting a refund?
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