If the Internet represents middle school and all the websites represent kids, Google would be the mean girl.
Why?
Because Google only picks websites that are already popular to be at the top of search results.
Google only likes you if everybody else likes you first.
But the crazy thing is, you don’t need Google to put you at the top of search results after you’ve already become popular.
At that point, Google can only confirm what you already know: people like what you have to offer.
How does this apply to you?
The same thing happens when you’re looking for a man. The more you appear to like yourself, the more everyone else finds you attractive.
But, if you look like you’re looking, you’ll look like you’re desperate.
Desperation makes people wonder: what’s wrong with your assets? Why are you so eager to give them away when you could sell them for top dollar?
Then you l begin to lose your cool and nobody is attracted to that.
Guys love confident girls who have a life of their own, because they’re not waiting to be picked!
They are picking themselves in spite of the fact that the right guy seems to be blind. They don’t let his disablement stop them. They choose to enjoy life anyway.
And this is what makes them so attractive.
They have hobbies. They engage in conversations with interesting people without expecting anything in return.
And they actually have fun when they go out with their girlfriends.
They don’t just sit there looking at every guy who passes them with that look. You know the look that says, “if you don’t pick me, I’m gonna die alone.”
They dance by themselves if they have to.
They are crazy enough to have a life without a Mr. and you could be one of them if you would just start living.
We all want to be picked
Not only that, but we don’t want to be picked last. This is natural and it started on the playground when the cool kids were forming their teams.
If you were one of the last persons picked, it meant that the pickers were settling. They weren’t picking you because you were a good athlete, but they were picking you because they ran out of good choices.
When it comes to men and dates, this is a myth.
Just because you’re still single it doesn’t mean you’re not one of the best choices. It means it’s not your turn, yet.
So you could waste a lifetime trying to be everyone’s first choice. Or you can focus your attention on something that matters. YOU.
How do you focus on yourself?
- Pick yourself, first. You don’t need a man to confirm what you may or may not know already: you ARE special.
If you never go out on another date or never get married, you are still worthy to enjoy the life that you’ve been blessed with. Having a man on your arm doesn’t prove your worth.
There are plenty of unhappily married women who still don’t know their self- worth. Boyfriends and husbands can’t give you everything.
Self-worth is one of those things you must already have.
- Date yourself, first. When he comes along, he should be joining your party –NOT starting it.
If you don’t like being alone with you, why would you expect anyone else to? Learn to enjoy dinners, movies and vacations, alone. A mate should only confirm what you already know: you have something valuable to offer.
And you should already know what your “something valuable” is when he comes along so that you won’t allow just anyone appreciate your valuables.
The only way to know what you have to offer is to spend some time getting to know yourself. What do you like? What do you want? What are your goals?
If you don’t know who you are, you will allow anybody to define you. As you have probably already found out the hard way, “anybody” is not always a good match for you.
- Love yourself, first. Love you neighbor as yourself is a commandment—not a suggestion— from God. But how can you love anyone else IF you don’t first love yourself?
It all starts with you.
This is proof that we can only give what we have to offer. If you don’t have (self) love, you can’t give it. Developing a love for yourself should be a priority before you date anyone.
